Our guide, Nyanja, set up a visit to a group that call themselves “The Best Family”. They are an independent ministry group started by a few remarkable Rwandan young adults who provide education, medical needs, and food for a variety of Rwandan children. Some of the children are orphans, some live with a parent, some are street kids, but all are in poverty and need.
When we arrived at their “home”, which was a schoolhouse they are using while regular school is out for the summer, we were greeted by the administrator Jean Claude. Our gang of 13 unpacked from the bus and started to grab our usual bag of toys, shoes, clothes, and other items to give away. Jean Claude stopped us in our tracks and said we can leave them for now, but first he wanted to meet with us. He wished us to gather with him, the small staff he works with, and all of the children before we did anything else.

We were ushered into a small, dark and dusty school room filled with community desks; which we shared with the children, who ranged from kindergarten to college age. They were very well behaved kids and it was clear that Jean Claude and the other leaders were much respected. If only schools in the U.S. were this disciplined!
After some words from Jean Claude it became clear to us that this was a meeting and they were setting the tone. They wanted to talk with us and ask questions. They even wanted to pray for us before we had a chance to pray for them. Nyanja interpreted between our groups as they asked questions. Not the expected questions you would normally receive from children and young adults.
My favorite inquiry was from a small boy around eight or nine years old. The boy stood up at his seat and said that they see people from the U.S. and other places that come to visit them, play with them, and offer help to them. But when the groups go home they never hear form them again. He said, “What will you do to help us when you go back home?”
I wanted to stand up and cheer this little guy with such a mature and relevant question! A question any of these people probably often wonder about. A question we need to ask ourselves.
What will we do after seeing all of this? How will we help after being impacted so strongly by such suffering, poverty, disease, and injustice? How will we help after committing to getting our hands dirty? Will we remember the faces, names, places, and stories? Or will we wash our hands of the whole thing?
It was like a message from God Himself. What will YOU do when you leave here? Will you forget ME? Will you DO anything beyond talking about what an amazing trip you had in Africa? For whenever you have seen one of these who are overlooked and ignored, that was ME!
So, in response to the boy’s question we asked “What do you want us to do when we return?”
The reply from the group leaders was essentially – Do not forget them and help them continue and grow this group however we can with whatever influence we can. They need further organization, funding, publicity, and supplies. The Best Family eventually wants to allow people to “adopt” a child in their family through monthly contributions and personal correspondence, in much the same way as Compassion International operates. So they need to get a solid foundation underneath them and become more legitimate in the eyes of the charitable community.
We are making initial steps, and with God’s grace, we can somehow make a difference. Jean Claude and his small team are making huge sacrifices to provide for these kids and help them discover hope and a successful future.
Following the heaviness of the meeting, we retrieved the goody bags and played with all the kids in the school yard (dirt actually). Everything was rolling at once – face painting, puppets, cameras, jump ropes, stickers, volleyball, and soccer. I kicked the soccer ball around with one, then two, and suddenly 10 kids. One of the boys asked me my name and I told him. Within 5 minutes there were 30 kids all calling my name when I would get the ball. “Mikel, Mikel, Mikel!!” in their Rwandan accents. It was made me smile, but also caused me to think as I watched these little football players show me up. So many children calling my name at once, so many here and at other places we have visited need the same type of help and love. How on earth can I even make a difference with so many voices calling out?
That is where we can get stuck. It paralyses us – the overwhelming scope of it all. But one thing I am learning more about is that we just have to move forward and do SOMETHING. Anything to directly help a group, organization, or individual child or family. That is our mission – our responsibility – as Christians, citizens, and human beings. That is how we can be part of this Best Family.


I’m not sure exactly when I knew I wanted to go to Africa, but I am aware of those mostly repsonsible: Our church - 








